GENTLE READER: Here is another argument against inviting the extended family to a graduation: Graduation ceremonies can be meaningful to the graduates and their immediate families, but you will perhaps forgive Miss Manners for saying that they are not sources of general entertainment.

Letter writer doesn’t want to invite family to son’s out of state graduation if they can’t provide a party afterwards.

Surely anyone who is friendly with your daughter will wish her well without being prompted by mail. And if you say or write to your friends, “I’m so proud of Tanya, who is graduating from high school,” they will doubtless offer their congratulations. Not enough?